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The Idiot’s Guide to Flirting

7th March 2005
Madeleine Binnie

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Flirting is a complicated task that takes both subtlety and nerve. Too much flirting can lead to awkwardness if the recipient doesn’t feel the same way but too little will mean that your attempts at affection are not noticed.

Batting your eyelids at a certain someone is all well and good, but if you really want them to know that you like them and find out how they feel in return, remember to reach a happy medium in both conversation and body language. For example gently touching their arm to emphasise a point in conversation will seem both natural and flirty without being over the top.

The important thing to remember about flirting is that it comes in many forms and can mean nothing more than friendship rather than a relationship if done in the right way. Flirting is also a sign of possession; couples often flirt subconsciously in public as both a sign of affection and a warning to others that they are an item.

The key to successful flirting is making the other person feel comfortable with the fact that you are both outwardly showing affection in public. Signs that the other person is uncomfortable can include lack of eye contact, fidgeting and the mentioning of attention from other women/men.

At the end of the day flirting is normally done without the people concerned realising and this is why outsiders often mention it before the flirters have even realised what they have been doing.

If the flirting becomes consistent and both parties are single then it is probably a good idea to tentatively mention the idea of being more than friends.

If said in the right tone even if the other flirter does not feel the same way there is no reason why you can’t simply enjoy being ‘flirty friends’. So have fun and get flirting!